Jennie Karina

Live, love and thrive

  • Facebook
  • Twitter
  • Home
  • About Jennie
    • About Jennie
    • Profile
    • Awards
  • Services
    • Counseling
    • Design your Life Coaching (DYL)
    • Marriage Preparation & Enrichment
    • Professional Speaker
  • Book Store
    • Order Now
    • Book Review
    • Testimonials
  • Blog
    • Love and Relationships
    • Family
    • Counselling
  • Events
  • Gallery
  • Contact Me
Make the right CHOICE and find HEALING BEYOND BETRAYAL

Make the right CHOICE and find HEALING BEYOND BETRAYAL

Betrayal is probably the most devastating experience anyone can endure in relationships. When a spouse deceives you, trust is lost. Betrayal is a violation of trust and goodwill. It produces moral and psychological conflicts in any relationship. It can be a result of broken promises, failed loyalties, unfaithfulness, or unmet expectations. It has destroyed many which have ended long-term friendships, and created havoc in families, causing everybody involved a lot of pain, frustration, anger, stress, and depression. When the deception is committed by a spouse, the partner experiences an affliction that takes a long time to heal. Some, in fact, never recover as their world crumbles awakening a new reality: you are just as vulnerable as everybody else. The good news is that we all can Make the right CHOICE and find HEALING BEYOND BETRAYAL  it is possible to heal from betrayal and enjoy a lasting fruitful relationship.

Since the launch of Marriage Built to Last, I have realized that we need to be continuously proactive in enhancing the quality of relationships, through coaching and counselling. Most people put great consideration and effort into the wedding preparations but neglect to do so for the lifelong marital journey. They end up in the deep end of the pool, without knowing how to swim. Every day, many couples tie the knot in lavish weddings, in the hope of enjoying lifetime unions. Unfortunately, even before they can celebrate their first anniversaries, some of those marital relationships fall apart, and society loses another building block in its structure.

Healing from betrayal is a choice.  I would like to share some insights which will hopefully help you recover and thrive in your relationship;

  1. The key to healing from betrayal is forgiveness. If your spouse had betrayed you, you must find a way to forgive him. If you are the offending party, you must learn to forgive yourself and seek forgiveness. Forgiveness reopens the door to true intimacy and connection. It results from a conscious decision to stop the blame game, make peace, and start afresh on a clean slate. If the past has had you in its clutches, take the next step and make a choice to let the past remain in the past. Today is a new day and yes you can rejoice and thrive again!
  1. Trust is also crucial in relationships and is cultivated over long periods but can be destroyed in the blink of an eye. It is a powerful tool that helps your relationship grow in every aspect. It builds a sense of security for you and your spouse, betrayal destroys trust, begin to rebuilt by taking daily purposeful steps.
  1. Acceptance is important; it is not easy for two people of completely different backgrounds to come together. It requires compromise and unconditional acceptance. Denial only prolongs the process, instead recognise areas of strength and weakness of your partner and don’t have unrealistic expectations. Do not waste your energies, trying to change character, it takes long periods of positive influence.  No one is perfect, learn to put up with some of their flaws.  Remember your commitment: for richer or poorer, better or worse, in sickness and in health.
  1. Communication is the foundation of a relationship. Regardless of the betrayal have open and honest communication, it does not matter how painful the situation is open communication will help resolve the most complicated of matters. Silence will destroy.  If you sense that your spouse is disconnected do not ignore turning a blind eye to the situation will not fix things, as a matter of fact they will deteriorate.  Discuss and iron out the issues. Listen attentively and provide empathy as much as possible.
  1. Healing from betrayal involves teamwork. You and your spouse must be fully committed to rebuilding your relationship. More importantly, you both need to establish mechanisms to ensure that you put in structures and boundaries that will prevent the same betrayal happening again. Seek a compromise, the goal is to resolve and find healing for both of you for the benefit of the entire family.

 

Live Love and thrive because you deserve it!

Share this:

  • Click to share on Google+ (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on WhatsApp (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)
  • Click to email this to a friend (Opens in new window)

Related

Filed Under: Love and Relationships Tagged With: 2017, Healing beyond betrayal, Marriage Built to Last, New year

Comments

  1. grace says

    December 2, 2016 at 1:30 pm

    nice read what happens when the offending party does not want to work out things and as a christian you know God hates divorce

    Reply
  2. Thomas Mwashumbe says

    December 31, 2016 at 3:56 pm

    This article is very helpful as I am still planning to get into a relationship. Thank you.

    Reply
    • Jennie Karina says

      January 3, 2017 at 11:09 am

      Amen and thank you Thomas. May God fulfill your heart desires !

      Reply
  3. Muthoni says

    January 2, 2017 at 10:05 am

    Happy New Year. Thanks for the great work you do of salvaging the marriage institution. What happens if you are totally disconnected?

    Reply
    • Jennie Karina says

      January 3, 2017 at 11:08 am

      Happy New Year Muthoni. I thank God for giving me the opportunity and the gift. Kindly read the this article. You can also choose to seek guidance from a professional.http://www.jenniekarina.co.ke/five-things-to-do-if-you-feel-alone-in-your-marriage/

      Reply
  4. Muthoni says

    January 5, 2017 at 3:16 pm

    Thanks for the article it is really helpful. Where can i get the books?

    Reply
    • Jennie Karina says

      January 14, 2017 at 8:08 am

      Thank you Muthoni , books available in all leading bookshops. Textbook Center , Keswick Prestige and even from my office an autographed copy. 0707633433.

      Reply

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

Your email address will not be published.

Check Out My book

Connect With Me!

Connect With Me!

Jennie’s Recent Posts

Interacting with Maina Kageni of Classic 105 yesterday got me thinking about the importance of specializing in your NICHE market.  He has done many things and eventually found himself in the media, which is clearly his element.  It reminded me that when you narrow down to the one thing that you love to do, success simply shows up and pursues you.  There is no doubt that Maina is living his dream having found his niche.  He would not trade it with anything else, he simply LOVES what he does.  I am passionate about changing lives, through; teaching, training, coaching, mentoring and counselling individuals, couples and teams so that they may Live Purposefully, Love Passionately and Thrive Unapologetically, for the Glory of God.  Have you identified your niche yet? Does not matter where you are at, what your side hustle, whether you know your purpose or passion. What matters most is that you never stop pursuing your dreams and narrow down your NICHE; the one thing that you love to do. How do you do this?  1.	Identify your gifts, talents and skills.  What are you good at and what do others constantly affirm you for? What do you enjoy doing most? 2.	Identify the problem that you would like to solve 3.	Identify your specific target audience and research on what is available in the market 4.	Determine the sustainability of your NICHE  5 	Identify a Mentor in the specific are of interest. Get a Coach, Champions and Cheerleaders 5.	Test your idea and don’t let fear hold you back 6.	Live your purpose, succeed in your NICHE and change your world in your generation and beyond.  Share your testimonies with others so that they too can be inspired to pursue their dreams…

Interacting with Maina Kageni of Classic 105 yesterday got me thinking about the importance of specializing in your NICHE market. He has done many things and eventually found himself in the media, which is clearly his element. It reminded me that when you narrow down to the one thing that you love to do, success simply shows up and pursues you. There is no doubt that Maina is living his dream having found his niche. He would not trade it with anything else, he simply LOVES what he does. I am passionate about changing lives, through; teaching, training, coaching, mentoring and counselling individuals, couples and teams so that they may Live Purposefully, Love Passionately and Thrive Unapologetically, for the Glory of God. Have you identified your niche yet? Does not matter where you are at, what your side hustle, whether you know your purpose or passion. What matters most is that you never stop pursuing your dreams and narrow down your NICHE; the one thing that you love to do. How do you do this? 1. Identify your gifts, talents and skills. What are you good at and what do others constantly affirm you for? What do you enjoy doing most? 2. Identify the problem that you would like to solve 3. Identify your specific target audience and research on what is available in the market 4. Determine the sustainability of your NICHE 5 Identify a Mentor in the specific are of interest. Get a Coach, Champions and Cheerleaders 5. Test your idea and don’t let fear hold you back 6. Live your purpose, succeed in your NICHE and change your world in your generation and beyond. Share your testimonies with others so that they too can be inspired to pursue their dreams…

Anchor Relationship Network (ARN)

Anchor Relationship Network (ARN)

Enjoy success as you balance career and family

Enjoy success as you balance career and family

Subscribe to Blog via Email

Enter your email address to subscribe to this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email.

Join 6,010 other subscribers

Copyright © 2021 · Jennie Karina

loading Cancel
Post was not sent - check your email addresses!
Email check failed, please try again
Sorry, your blog cannot share posts by email.