Caught up in the romance and excitement of wedding plans, many couples are unable to envision what their relationship will be like on a routine basis. Both spouses enter marriage with a set of expectations, most of which will be quite different from the other. Every individual has an assumption about the roles and responsibilities in marriage which they will play. The woman may expect that she will have a career, and the household chores will be shared equally with her husband. The man, on the other hand, may be somewhat traditional and believe that cooking and cleaning is the woman’s responsibility. He will, therefore, be expecting his wife to play that part. Since roles and expectations are not as clear cut as they once were, it is important to take time to discover what these expectations are. Some are realistic and achievable while others may be idealistic and unachievable.
We cannot be ignorant of the fact that the world is changing rapidly and the traditional roles and responsibilities of men and women continue to evolve. Culture is influenced by modernization and the marriage setting is not the same as it used to be in the days of our parents and grandparents. Many individuals bring into the relationship their own experiences and influences from their parents’ relationships. Their observation of how their parents lived as well as specific teaching of faith, values and traditions and practices.
In order to minimise conflict and build fruitful, healthy lasting relationships, it is important that both men and women have a clear understanding of how they should relate. First things first, the importance of choosing your partner well cannot be over emphasized. Remember to take into consideration their faith, values and culture. They should be individuals of integrity, good family history and a good standing in society. Marriage is serious business and should not be entered into lightly. Once you are ready and are confident then marry and live by the rules of the game.
Wives endeavour to;
- Be a helper to your husband
- Respect honour and appreciate him
- Love him unconditionally
- Submit to the leadership of your husband
- Be a good home maker
- Looks matter, take care of yourself and your self-image
- Stay faithful and give your husband no reason to doubt your fidelity
- Work diligently for the wellbeing of the home
- Aspire to meet his needs
- Be his confidant
Husbands endeavour to;
- Love your wife unconditionally and be committed to her
- Serve your wife diligently
- Provide for her adequately
- Protect her with your life
- Listen to her attentively
- Be generous with your time
- Proactively determine her needs and aspire to meet them
- Honour and respect her
- Understand her language of love
- Be her confidant
God’s intentions and original plan was for husband to provide leadership in marriage. In the beginning, God created Adam and in seeing that he needed companionship, He created Eve as his helper from the man’s ribs, bone of his bone and flesh of his flesh. “The LORD God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him’. Genesis 2.8
Marriage is beautiful, however, each of the partners have to play their part and be totally committed to the relationship if it is to work. It is a sometimes unspoken and recognition of roles and responsibilities is clearly defined. Roles continue to evolve and what matters is who is better at what. Gifts and abilities are not gender sensitive and when you a couple recognises this then partners allow one another to exercise their gifting. After all what matters is the bottom line. It’s not about who is the head of the household, it’s about servant leadership, one willing to lead without a title and desiring to lead a team called family.
Live love and thrive because you deserve it!
Great piece there. You are such an inspiration to many generations if only we live the way God intended us to. God Bless
Amen and thank you very much Muthoni. Well said. God bless you.
This is extremely sexist. The woman is supposed to be subservient to the man? That’s bullshit. In a good partnership, the man and the woman treat each other as equals. And what about same sex couples? I’m bisexual. What rules would I follow if I were getting married to a woman? These roles are very much dated and should be revised to accommodate the modern perception of the woman/women of the household.
Respected Sir Pauline Ratnam-iwill my HWESBAD Nvenkataratnam Pauline wief Nvenkataratnam ilke Ilovyou Nvenkataratnampauline lifelong with my HWESBAD Nvenkataratnam Pauline Ratnam-iwill copret with my HWESBAD Retenback Nweyrky fresckiyuk in-house counsel of my HWESBAD Nvenkataratnam Pauline Ratnam-iwill*
Hi Jane, am always educated by articles n I have learnt a lot. I kindly request to have a one on one communication with you, how can I get in touch with you, can I get your e-mail address may be.
Thanks
Thank you Maggy. Keep learning. 0707633433 / coaching@jenniekarina.co.ke
Hie Jeanie in your today posting you talked about coaching. Where is it happening and how much is it?
Greetings Hellen , i will be sending you the details to your email shortly. Thank you for your inquiry.
Great & encouraging
Thank you Reuben.
well am inspired by these articles now I know what it means to be an ideal wife
great article there!
I would like to have more of these,where can I get them Ma’am ?
Thanks.educative
thanks for such a wonderful advice may GOD bless you
What are the main responsibility of married life?,
https://edupointme.blogspot.com/2020/02/main-responsibility-of-married-life.html
nice article
What are the main responsibility of married life?
ans-https://edupointme.blogspot.com/2020/02/main-responsibility-of-married-life.html
Great and consice !
Beautiful message about roles and responsibilities of partners
Thank you Beloved for your affirmation, it gives me the encouragement to keep pressing on. Keep reading, growing and thriving.
Greetings Beloved, thank you for getting in touch and yes, there is so much work that needs to be done in the area of teaching, coaching and mentoring. Be radicle in 2018 and achieve your Dreams! Join me together with like minded professionals on an 8-week life transforming journey that will not only awaken your awareness but also empower you to break through your barriers to discover, define and design success in every aspect of your life, career or ministry. Contact me on 0734 713 650 to discuss this further. Very best wishes, Jennifer Karina
Thank you for getting back to me and for being a blessing. I am delighted that my writing is a blessing and that you have benefited greatly from the same. Keep reading, living and loving because thriving is your portion, in Jesus Name!